I am a 36-year-old Dom with a varied experience with submissives.
I've engaged in play that ranges from single-scene arrangements to full-time TPE.
I have a fairly strong kink for effort that drives most of the things I enjoy. I like to see submissives go through things on my behalf, whether that's spending effort, concentration, endurance, service, etc.
I reward them according to the effort they went to on my behalf.
On the back of that effort kink is a fairly sadistic streak.
If you're looking for externalised consequences or someone to hurt you the way you need it. Give me a try.
Fair warning: I am not a soft Dom.