I've been in a situation where I've endured a lot of mental & spiritual ; someone's emotional punching bag and I've had quite enough of that, thank you. As an empath and one that enjoys teaching and watching others learn and grow, this has been an exceptionally difficult and trying time that is now (thankfully) over.

I'm looking for someone kind and sincere, willing to take it slow for now and build a strong, solid foundation. Sex is nice yes and we all need it but there is a time and a place for everything.

I am still healing and in a fragile state; suffice to say that I'm gun-shy and happy to cut my losses and walk away at the first sign of bullshit. Though I really want to love someone and feel that love returned to me. I'm not impressed by possessions and that sort of thing but by a good heart and a kind spirit. I miss having a best friend, a sounding board, a confidant, a lover, a beautiful soul that is open, honest and above all else - patient & understanding.

Trust is earned, never granted and once you have my trust, it is up to you how long it's kept. I don't do anything half-assed and that is especially poignant where intimacy is concerned.

I am constantly working on improving myself but it cannot be said that I am vain by any stretch of the imagination.

My ideal will be intelligent but not a smart ass, open minded, independent but not shy away from PDA's. I love to cuddle and hold hands as we walk, open doors for my bae, etc..there is a time and a place for everything - balance is the key.

Netflix and chill, Hulu and do you, lol. Certainly, we will rock the pillars of heaven I assure you but I'm not just jumping in with the next thing that rolls down the pike. Be of good quality, honest, intelligent but never arrogant & no STDs. Honest and open to new ideas and ways of doing things; 6+3 is 9 but so is 5+4 and many other combinations. Open your heart and I will open to you my world.

Last but not least; I am in a sexless open relationship for the last 26 years and this is not the one that caused me the I spoke of. I lived under the collar for much of that time and was trained in the old school BDSM. Do not assume for a moment that you have what it takes to reinitiate that - I bow to no one.

I will answer any and all questions you may have of me and my situation but I expect the same. In a nutshell, we can absolutely build and grow. We can spend time, share time, enjoy sleepovers and long weekends away but this is my home. The right person won't be insecure and consumed with jealousy but add the vitality and balance that is a perfect match.. for my life, our lives and yours.

A former tradesman, I'm a handy guy to have around. Nearly all forms of construction, a certified welder & fabricator, hobby machinist, low voltage electrician, lic professional tattoo artist, Veteran - I've worn many hats. As an Aquarian, I am always thirsting to learn more. Never arrogant, always willing to help & rarely asking for anything in return. If you're someone that fits this criteria, then I look forward to getting to know you.

P.S. I do not give out my number to ANYONE right off the bat. If you're sincere, you won't have any problem with chatting here until we build enough of a foundation to where that is a possibility.

Nothing too far out there, restraints, nothing illegal. I am claustrophobic, so no breath play either. Skat, , severe , *** - none of that.

I am a nice guy, one of the sweetest guys you'll ever meet but I will not tolerate disrespect & dishonesty.