Firstly - I’ve been in this life a LONG time, so please, no condescending jerks, dilettantes, or poseurs.
I am a true Switch; Dommed professionally for a time (still take select clients), and I can talk you into a quivering pile of acheing protoplasm if I so desire.
But my real release lies in being able to lose myself in subspace with a proper Dom who is EDUCATED, EXPERIENCED, kind and funny but firm, and knows there is a balance of power to be explored here. With skilled Dom, I can let the little sub in me out. And she needs to get out!
I’m very much into Shibari, and bondage. Whippings only if you actually know what you are doing. Again...experience is a requirement.
Any negotiations will take time and the proper protocol. I am old school. I do not leap into a physical sexual relationship with a Dom. That is not how I was trained. That is not what it is about for me (well, of course it is, but other criteria must be met!) The mind must be engaged first. Sex comes when trust is established.
Obviously, chatting is a must!
Also, I took the *y thing, ha!
Desires and Fantasies**
To get seriously back into Shibari.