My Ordinary Vanilla Life

Hi, I’m Setrion, and I am a consummate nerd.

I have broad variety of experiences, hobbies, and interests, and I get lost in the weeds of all of them. I like knowing stuff, and I like being good at stuff. I like stories, and I like clever rules and tricky wordplay. Everything else comes from there.

My hobbies and interests are a disconnected mess of random ideas, but also probably the most straightforward way to understand me. So here’s the first few things off the top of my head:

• Videogames (action, platforming, strategy, coop/team, logistics)
• Books (fantasy/sci-fi, Lois McMaster Bujold, Brandon Sanderson, and Phillip K. Dick especially)
• SPREADSHEETS (there is nothing as exciting as well-formatted data! How do you rate this list?)
• Board games (eurogame point salads, worker placement, action point limited, deckbuilder)
• Convoluted philosophically-inclined bullshit (Umineko, K6BD, Homestuck, Evangelion)
• Sports (disc golf, minigolf, bowling, archery, curling, and wait there’s more!)
• Roleplaying games (various TTRPGs, e.g. D&D or Tenra Bansho Zero)
• Cuddling (just being together is nice, but touching is special and important)
• Anime (Thunderbolt Fantasy, Violet Evergarden, FMA, Durarara)
• ***s! Let’s go to the zoo or go on a hike and look at birds! (Weird how this point isn’t formatted the same huh? That’s gonna bug someone... Oh wait it’s me)
• Writing and game design (I make my own stories and games, too!)
• kdrama (intrigue and mystery) (also does anyone know how to capitalize “K-Drama” and make it not look weird?)
• Sharing experiences and passing thoughts (I love the intimacy of seeing your interests and encounters in real time. I love to share things I find.)
• Wordplay and linguistics (I WILL look up the etymology of that weird word, and use it for a godawful pun three weeks later. Or maybe three seconds later.)

• Nerdy documentaries on unnecessarily specific topics (like a 6-hour dissection of a game about being a kid spending summer vacation in rural japan, and its thesis about childhood)
  
  There’s a lot more, especially in terms of dabblings I don’t actively pursue (genetics, crafting, proper walking technique, celtic knot drawing... etc.), but this list is long enough as it is. The point is, I’m looking for conversations and shared activities, and these are some of the things I’m most passionate about.
  

  What I’m Looking For

  
  I’m looking for either a play partner and/or a relationship; there are different (yet compatible) desires for each.
  
  In terms of play, I’m most interested in sensations, especially touch. The feeling of another person, even if it is just a sense of physical closeness from a hand on an arm, is grounding and invigorating. The feeling of pressure, even if it is just a weighted blanket, is comforting and soothing. I’m excited to learn about and try different kinds of sensation play, especially textures and blindfolds. So far: I like violet wands, I’m experimenting with rope play (top and bottom), and I’m interested in trying “thuddy” impact play.
  
  In terms of a relationship, I’m looking for safety and security. The feeling of being desired, that someone wants me and wants to do things with and/or to me. The feeling of appreciation, that my partner has gotten the satisfaction they were seeking, and the praise that I did a good job.
  
  I want a relationship built on a foundation of vanilla hobbies. Something we can do or talk about together regularly. I don’t care if that’s playing games, or watching anime together, or talking about weird science articles, but some kind of shared activity. Something that we care about doing to do it, even if we wouldn’t be doing it alone.
  
  I want to feel hugs and warmth and mutual concern. To take care of each other. I want a partner who can accept help as well as give it. I want a dash of rivalry and friendly competition. Some backtalk and sass.
  

  Stretch Goal: An Ideal Life Partner

  
  Conversations which flower with tangents, interjected with clever subversions and layered with hidden ironies. Long stories of childhood mistakes, of digging oneself deeper before making an escape. Deep technical explanations of the strangest hobbies, deep lore reveals of the most mundane coincidences, and twenty minute TED talks about pet **ves. Unexpected messages about something just thought of or discovered; the impatient exploration of new ideas.
  
  The most important part of any relationship is - hold your hat! - the relationship. Wow, thanks tautology, very deep. What I am talking about is the excited banter between friends, the compassionate ear after a long day at work, the heated rivalry of another rematch of the same game we always play, and the lazy warmth of a cuddle wrapped in a blanket on the couch drifting to sleep. Of what it is like to be* with that person.
  
  I want someone who steadies me with their touch when I get too emotional to use words. Someone who laughs when I trip and mocks me when I tiptoe around the edge of the room to keep my distance from that bully of a chair. Someone who holds me when I’m scared about a schism in a friend group. Someone who it’s okay to cry in front of; who I don't have to feign strength for. Someone brave enough to ask for my help when they need it, and secure enough to accept it when they don’t.
  
  I want a friend. I want a roommate. I want a lover. But most importantly, I want a partner to hold hands with and stand strong against the world.
  

  Boy, that sure was a lot

  
  Congratulations, you have completed the overview of me. You have some introductory sense of who I am and what I’m about, in the vanilla world and in the kink world, for play partners and relationships, and that unfiltered melodramatic part of me. Sure, there’s a lot more. You can ask me how many languages I speak, or how many countries I’ve been to, or what I had for breakfast yesterday. Hopefully, this should be enough to start with. Now you know enough, at least, to know what questions to ask.
  
  So, what are you planning to do with all this information? Are you going to just take this sage wisdom, nod your head knowingly, and ride off into the sunset? Or are you going to message me, become good friends, and enjoy a blossoming romance? *wink wink*
  
  Oh, you, ah, you pick the sunset thing? W-well, that’s okay too, I guess...

• bad, contextual
• Mindfuckery dicey, probably bad
• No , skin breaking, , etc
• No needles
• No breath play
• No ***