This is an annual profile update (Sept-2024)

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My kink journey started in puberty, when I started fantasizing about tying up women and spanked them, then as I got older I occasionally indulged them with partners who where willing, it wasn't until I hit my 30's that I had the light bulb moment, that led me into the lifestyle properly, and I've been going down the kink rabbit hole ever since, exploring and refining my kinks, and learning about this lifestyle, and putting informed consent at the heart of my dynamics.

I am an ordinary person who identifies as a dominant. I classify a dominant as a leader and natural caregiver who places his partners wellbeing at the heart of the dynamic, as well as taking the lead in the dynamic and giving her a safe space to express her submission to me.

More recently I've started to lean towards exploring the Master role with a consenting individual, although this will probably start as a more traditional D/s arrangement and see how that dynamic develops first.

In my experience each dynamic is subtly different and built by the parties involved, in addition I've learned that the whole Dominant/submissive dynamic is about more than just sex, dont misunderstand sex is important, but it is the icing on the vanilla and kink layer cake, however, the psychological bond that is created as a part of establishing the dynamic is the most important part.

I have a process, occasionally it gets tweaked depending on the situation, normally that is a chat/conversation between us to establish a base level of compatibility as well as understanding of what each role is, if we establish common ground, then I would arrange to meet for an informal face to face chat over a cup of coffee or lunch, or if distance is a factor, a face time chat if we are unable to meet in person, but this is then followed up by an in person meeting shortly after, where I will travel to her location.

After this initial face to face, we decide if we want to proceed, at this point we start discussing the finer points, like responsibilities, rules, protocols, limits, punishments, etc, this will be written down, printed with every page signed/initialled by both parties to prevent changes being made

This will mark the start of the consideration period, which will require regular communication and meetings and will hopefully lead to a formal collar over time. I am able to host if my partner is not, but hopefully it would be a mix of travelling to each others.

My main kinks are, in no particular order :

• Rope bondage including suspension
• Impact play
• Wax play
• Sensation play
• Edging (***d and denied orgasms)
• E-stim play
• Light anal play (Hooks, plugs etc)
• Chastity

• Limited CnC
  
  
  My bdsm test results
  
  == Results from bdsmtest.org ==
  97% Dominant
  94% Rigger
  90% Master/Mistress
  87% Brat tamer
  82% Owner
  80% Sadist
  75% Degrader
  72% Daddy/Mommy
  64% Primal (Hunter)
  57% Experimentalist
  57% Voyeur
  45% Switch
  44% Non-monogamist
  43% Vanilla
  21% Exhibitionist
  20% Ageplayer

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