So my previous description is below if you are interested…. but mostly irrelevant. my main reason now is that I have 20+ experience in the scene to share. I had a wonderful introduction to the scene… I got very lucky. I want that for everyone. but don’t take anything I say as gospel… there is no right or wrong way way to do this… ok there are wrong ways(damaging ways). basically I want to be better. I want the BDSM community to be an inclusive way to learn how to be better. And if I say something wrong please call me out… I may defend my position but am always willing to learn.
When it comes to sex I am a secret, sensual, sybaritic, seraphic, striking, seductive sadist, delighting in degenerate, debauched deviancy.
I thrive on the darker, more adventurous and daring side of carnal delights, with many years as a Dominant (more than all my adult life). Love to explore and experience as much as life has to offer. To tease and expand my partners limits (or with the right partner completely obliterate them, but that is more than most can contemplate). I have almost no limits in what I can enjoy with the right person (I play to other people's limits) but the mental side of things and finding my partner's mental triggers is what really excites me. Where you can tease someone to the point of complete, body trembling, mind numbing, exhausting arousal. By touch, talk, tease, stimulation, excitement, a tinge of , triggers or any other tools that can be utilised. Tying someone so every sense is heightened, every sound sends quakes of anticipation through every atom, every touch causes tremors to run right through you. And for those that are a little more daring the more extreme side of things.
I love taboos; sexual , role play, hypnotism. But again not everything works for everyone. It's all about finding the things that work between you, and the spark between two people is paramount. Even the most 'tame' of things can be amazing with the right person, whereas the most erotic of things can fall flat with the wrong one.
Outside of the lascivious, lecherous, lewd, libidinous, licentious, and lustful joys of life I like to think I am fairly intelligent… possibly ever so slightly pretentious, creative, witty, and companionable but all of that is subjective and obviously I'm biased so you'll have to make up your own mind. Similarly I get told I am attractive but that is for others to say. I am self confident and have been blessed with full and well rounded life to this point. And importantly, in spite of my alternative tastes I am safe, sane and pass for 'normal', keeping the depravity hidden behind my eyes when not appropriate (though it is fun to have that frisson of 'if only they knew').
So if you feel bold and brave, or rash and reckless then please email and let's see what fun we can find together.
Hmmm I have never found my hard limits. I always play to other people’s. That said I have no particular interest in needing to call out the police, ambulance, fire brigade, coast guard or mountain rescue… I’m picky like that.